Your Loneliness Isn't Your Fault

You are not ugly. You are not a bad person. Your loneliness isn't your fault. We all just need to get better at finding and connecting with each other. And when I say "we all" I mean our whole civilization--this is a systemic problem.

It's not your individual flaws that keep you isolated. The community infrastructure just isn't there. Human matchmaking has mostly died out in the modern era, and computer programs usually don't understand people well enough to make decent recommendations for potential dates. And as for finding communities or relationships of the non-romantic kind, there aren't any apps for that let alone human specialists.

This is a civilization-wide problem, and the only way to fix it is to build the infrastructure, to forge connections between different communities and expand our social networks so that we humans ourselves can be the matchmakers we need.

Also, fixing this problem will go a long way towards getting humankind to work together better on solving other important problems, including ones that threaten humanity's very existence like global warming and excessive automation. After all, when people are better connected to each other they also are better at working together.

We can do this. We got this.

The Love Quiz: an Essential Tool for Human Matchmaking